3 tips for living with no regrets <3
Life update: it’s been probably the most wild couple of weeks of my life.
Played the Pottstown Rumble , flew home for a day, flew to Cali for a week to train with Terese Cannon for a few days. Flew home for 3 nights. Flew to Michigan to be with my family for my Grandmothers funeral. Drove 6 hours from there to the Waupaca Boatride with my parents and husband to battle in the mud to a 🥈place finish. Drove 3 hours to Chicago after the final arriving at 130am to crash at my sisters before leaving the next day for 25 hours of travel to Rwanda for the 2 Star FIVB, to lose in the match to even get to play the real tournament. If I’m being honest, this is the toughest loss of my career. When Terese asked me to fly to Africa to play with her, we thought we’d be in the main draw. Things changed, and because of the FIVB rules we ended up playing a country quota against my good friends and often teammates from Florida - in Africa, in a tournament that wasn’t full where the team that got the main draw wild card didn’t even show up.
The adversity of this sport is unreal. For 99% of the players, every single expense is paid out of your own pocket. This tournament is huge for any of us trying to put ourselves in a position to play Paris 2024 - and is on the edge of an “exploding lake” in mud with nets held up by actual sticks 🤔.
I get asked this question a lot - how do you keep going?
Mindset is everything. I didn’t HAVE to play the country quota. I was offered an opportunity to learn how to play with someone I’d never played with before, and see how quickly I can make adjustments. I was offered a chance to play a really high pressure match, the more the better so I can learn to turn those matches into more W’s. I had the opportunity to come to a new continent and a new culture and also new food 😅.
Most of all, I have the opportunity to chase a dream. When I think about my life in the long term, I have always thought that I’d like to live without regrets. Here’s some things I’ve focused on that have gotten me this far without looking back:
Visualize your dreams. If you don’t know what you want, how are you supposed to strive for it? I find a lot of people who regret things in life didn’t have a vision of what they want in their future. The problem with this is, the future won’t magically become what you want - you have to take the small steps over years to build the future you want to live. If you don’t know what you want, you won’t be able to start taking those steps to lead you down that path. Conscious decisions now will manifest later. What do you need to do today to start visualizing your future?
Decide who you want to be. Decide. Some people feel that they are who they are, that will never change. I’m here to tell you you ARE who your circumstances made you, you GET TO BE whoever you want moving forward with conscious effort. Want to live with no regrets? Start deciding who you are instead of deciding to let life make you who you are. What do you need to do today to start deciding consciously who you want to become?
Be ALL in. One of the most common things I hear people say they regret - not committing. Nothing feels worse than being half in - for example, ever had a relationship where you or the other party was only half in? Ever looked back on a time in life, maybe college, and think man, I really didn’t commit fully to any one part of my life? Have you ever regretted giving your all? I mean REALLY regretted it? Sure being all in is scary - it makes you vulnerable to pain because nothing hurts worse than baring your soul for something you care about, and it not working out. I’ve been there. But you know what? I KNOW with certainty that’s all I could do. I couldn’t do anything more to control the situation, I gave it my all and it didn’t work out. How good it feels to believe deeply that it didn’t work out because it was truly outside of my control. What do you need to change today to be ALL IN?
#NoRegrets<3
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